Valentine's Day is next week, so what better time than now, to focus on romancing our husbands? For the next couple of weeks, we're going to be inspired and hopefully (where needed) freshly challenged to grow in our passion for our own husbands! Enjoy this post from Meghann Roberts:
I love my husband! I do. I
am totally and madly in love with him! We have been married for
almost 6 years now, and I really enjoy him. I enjoy having him to
pursue. I enjoy trying to think of fun and new ways to try to “woo”
him!
Early on I realized that what I find romantic – ahhh…candle
light, music, sweet massages – is not at all what he finds
romantic. So it has become my quest to find out what he really enjoys and
show him I love, respect and appreciate him by “romancing” him
through his own likes and preferences.
So, what
do I find to be successful in making my man happy in the department of
romance? I have found that just asking him is
helpful! My answer from him one day was surprising; what he
finds romantic is when I make him homemade chocolate chip cookies! How
easy is that?! Yet it communicates that I have thought about him, taken
time out of my day and prepared something that he enjoys. It’s
picking up a Slurpee on my way home from a meeting to let him know I wasn’t
consumed with my own time schedule, but that when I got out of my meeting I thought
of him! Another thing that is romantic for him – and fun for me –
is when I pursue him! Like having a movie on when he comes home from work
so the kid’s are in la-la land for an hour, and we can go into our room
for some time just for us. Or when I’m adventurous and suggest we
go somewhere or try something new instead of staying comfortable in my own
routine.
God has
given me so much grace in pursuing Steve. In times when I am blinded by
my own selfishness and selfish desires, God through His kindness has led me to
repent and has given me a desire to pursue my husband. So, the main thing
I can do in seeking to serve and love my husband is pray for him and pray for
my heart to be directed towards him. Praying for him on a daily basis has
caused my love and affections for him to grow and grow – even when the
days have been long and tiring, or I haven’t felt particularly great, or whatever
the case may be – if I have been praying for him and thinking about him
during the day I am ready for him when he gets home!
I have
also found that some of the best and most wise teaching we have received –
which resonates through my mind regularly - is to keep my relationship with the
Lord first and that my husband comes second. I love my children
dearly. What a gift and a reward they are from the Lord. But God
has given me my husband to serve and love and respect until death do us part,
and behind God, he is the most important person in my life. So, although
some days are very challenging and I am exhausted by the time he gets home, I try
to orient myself towards him and his desires. Reagan even knows that when
her Daddy gets home from work she is going to have to race me to get to him
first!
We're sure you agree this is a very inspiring testimony. But perhaps you can't relate to it right now due to a challenging season in your marriage. Please don't be discouraged. Next week you will read a testimony or two about ladies who, like you, have experienced challenging seasons in their marriage and how God helped them. He can help you, too!
